Trying to let go of negative emotions is never as easy as it should be. In fact, it can be painful for some people to try to deny their true feelings. They can also end up doing harm to themselves because they’re so afraid to accept reality. While you might be able to use short-term solutions to temporarily rid yourself of depression on anxiety, these problems quickly come back. Actual treatment, such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, must be deployed.
What Is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?
What differentiates mental health treatment from other sorts of medical intervention, is that treating issues doesn’t necessarily mean the goal is to eradicate them. A lot of stress comes from people who are already dealing with mental health issues feeling that they’re in the wrong for even having these struggles. They’ll see themselves as weak for conditions like depression and do all they can to feel otherwise. They might try to act cheerful or aloof when they’re feeling unhappy and tense. They might cover up their negative emotions with drugs and alcohol.
However, in trying to act like nothing’s wrong, more problems sprout up. Someone with an anxiety disorder can’t just tell themselves to calm down when having a panic attack. This is like trying to aggressively steer your way out of a skid when driving on black ice. For someone to be able to deal with long-present issues, they may have to accept that the only way out is to realize that there might not be a way out. They may have to deal with their issues, be they depression, anxiety, addiction, or another problem, in one form another, for the rest of their lives. This is what Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is all about.
When It’s Used
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a mental health treatment used to treat patients who have issues that they’ve been struggling with for a long time. Some of these issues can be traced back to early childhood, such as separation anxiety. Those who struggle with addiction and intense bodily discomfort can also benefit from ACT. The purpose is to help patients come to terms with their situation. It’s illogical to try to completely reverse a way of thinking and feeling that’s been present for so long that they can’t recall what it’s like to not feel that way. The best treatment can be to help them see their feelings as just being a fact of life, not something they need to suppress.
How It Works
When undergoing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a patient needs to review their negative feelings and how they’re most likely to worsen. Someone who has claustrophobia might feel the worst when in tight or enclosed spaces, such as elevators. Someone with depression might have those feelings intensified when they’re trying to fall asleep.
Reviewing moments of distress helps a patient to see how their resistance has negatively impacted them. If you’re someone with claustrophobia who has gotten in an elevator and tried to pretend that you were completely calm, your efforts likely backfired. You didn’t just decide one day to be claustrophobic, so you can’t just randomly declare that they’re not claustrophobic. Even if nothing goes wrong on the elevator, you’re likely to feel tenseness. Then, when you get off, you don’t feel any real relief. You just feel frustrated with yourself, because trying to force positive emotions hasn’t worked out for you. You might think that the problem is that you haven’t tried hard enough to get rid of your negative emotions. To cover up your fear, you might only go into elevators if you’re under the influence of drugs, believing that they’ll eliminate any fear.
ACT is largely based in mindfulness. Those who have studied meditation know that mindfulness involves being present at the moment and accepting the situation as it is. Through mindfulness, one comes to understand how much suffering is found not in bad situations, but in resistance to bad situations and an attachment to the permanence of good things. One has to surrender themselves to negative emotions in order to stop them from having control. They must accept them as readily as one accepts the rain.
When you get caught in their rain, you have to accept it. You can’t tell yourself that it’s not raining and hope that your clothes suddenly dry. You might be upset at the situation, but anger doesn’t change anything. If you pull out an umbrella, you have some protection. However, even if you have nothing to keep you dry, you can still deal with the rain in a better manner. It all starts with acceptance.
On a similar basis, your negative feelings might not be welcomed, but they have a reason for existing. You may have created associations that make you think about certain ways in certain situations. If you riding an elevator that got stuck when you were a child, it’s totally understandable that you would develop this kind of fear as a result. Not all conditions can be easily explained, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to come to any sort of epiphany.
When you find yourself in a negative mood, don’t fight it. Let yourself feel however you do. Bring yourself closer to your mind and body. Observe your thoughts, one at a time. You can turn your negative thoughts into statements that bounce around your mind. Look at each one and consider their validity. This practice lets you see how some of your thoughts are grossly misleading. You might still feel the judgment you have towards yourself, but you can identify these thoughts as being tricks of your biased mind and not actual truths. There’s often a physical component to these situations, such as sweating or having your heart start racing. Should this happen, you can observe what’s happening. How fast is your heart going? You can use slow, diaphragmatic breathing to calm you down.
These kinds of issues aren’t fun to experience, but they can be managed. Giving yourself permission to not feel great is one of the best things you can to take control of your life. Accept the bad moments, and the good ones will be even better. This may be easier said than done, but with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, it is possible. Working closely with a therapist, clients will learn how to process certain events and feelings. When confronting these emotions, individuals will decide if it should be accepted for what it is and make the appropriate behavioral changes.
If you or someone you know could benefit from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, contact us today for more information.